How to Stop Taking things Personally ( 6 Tips )
How to Stop Taking things Personally ( 6 Tips )
People often end up overreacting to situations where something has been
said about them or they took it the wrong way. Taking things personally
is part of human nature. Its often easier to believe bad things than
good things.
*Here are 6 ways to stop taking things personally*:
1. *Know that you are in control*
You are the only one who controls your thoughts and actions. If someone
comments about you or something related to you, don’t take it to heart,
that is allowing someone else make you sad or control how you feel or
react.
2.*Focus on what you want*
When we give attention to what other people say we can be diverted from
what we want to do or achieve in life. Taking things personally disturbs
your mind and heart which leads to a reduction in effort that take you
to your goals. Ask yourself what is more important to you, your goals or
what others have to say about you. Focus on accomplishing what you want
and use it as a tool to speak for you instead of getting into arguments.
How to Stop Taking things Personally ( 6 Tips )
3. *When in doubt, ASK*
Sometimes things we take personally are not even meant for us. If you
are unhappy because of something said approach the person directly and
clarify what exactly they meant. Communicating the right way at the
right time can avoid confusion and misunderstandings which lead to
personal differences. Ask for honest feedback and listen to it.
4.*Be accompanied by good people*
If you tend to take things personally and think that your friends make
comments about you that you don’t like, stay away and surround yourself
with people who are more supportive. Look for signs that tell you that
its time to move on. If you find that negative comments and criticism
has become an integral part of your social life, change your circle.
5. *Take the lessons and leave the rest*
If someone criticizes you or makes unkind comments about you, take those
comments and criticisms as a motivating force and thank people for
letting you know about your weaknesses and mistakes. Grasp the positive
element of anything said, learn what you can, and leave it alone.
6.*Talk to the hand*
If you have tried everything but people are still unkind to you follow
this technique: Stop paying attention to what they are saying, focus on
what you do and be yourself. The underlying concept is that you cannot
control the actions of others however you have full control over
yourself. Don’t be embarrassed about something said about you and simply
walk away.
